While many others did not.
We have kids walking around asking and looking for approval or acceptance from anything and everything. Their actions scream “tell me I matter!”
Hell, we have adults walking around asking and looking for approval or acceptance, too.
I wonder what would happen if this simple statement was said more to everyone (no matter what age) how much it could change our world.
These 5 simple words rocked some deep wounds in my own heart.
(Thank you Sid Falco)
The first time I remember someone saying it to me knocked the snot out of me. I instantly asked, “For what?!”
The response “…just because…”
I questioned it. Me? You are proud of me? What did I do? Are you sure? Just because? Something in me wonder what did he want? What did he know? Was I really actually in trouble and this is just the phrase before the “but”.
For a girl who has always felt like she wasn’t worth a crap, ruined everything and sucked at life; hearing these words changed my heart. These words opened up my mind to just maybe my life mattered and I was not a complete mess.
So many people are walking around this world asking the wrong things and people “..am I enough? Do I belong? Does anyone hear me? Does anyone see me? Does my life matter? What do I need to do or buy to be accepted?”
When their hearts and mind don’t hear the right words they are searching for, they go on to the next thing, place or person.
We walk around with these huge heavy questions for many different reasons but I believe maybe if we might have had (or could have) a few more pat on the backs, a few more “I love you” moments and definitely a few more “I am proud of you” conversations that we would question our self worth less.
So what if a few of us got together and started saying more positive things. What if we said I am proud of you? I love you. You are loved. I see you. I hear you. Way to go. What if we said these things a lot more? Could it change the actions, thoughts or words of others? Could we change our kids? Could we change some adults?
I am willing to bet we could.
So in case you have never heard it. Hear you go.
I am so stinking proud of you. I am proud of you just because. I am proud of you for being you. I am proud of you for absolutely nothing. I am proud of you just for being right where you are today.
You do matter. You are enough. You are loved. You rock. Keep it up.
(Insert high five here).