Single 101: Part 3

Part 3

You know I have kids, right?

You might have kids or not have kids. For some of us: this is our season of life right now.  In the last two years, I know 5 moms who have all gotten divorced.  Many of us are starting over in the career world, and the dating world.  With kids.  My kids are not my identity but, um duh, a very huge part of my life.  

I will continue to put their needs 1st before my dating life. 

You need to continue to put your kids first.  My main advice: don’t rely on a new relationship to help you be a better parent. Many people rush into a relationship to make single parenting life easier.  I am sorry but do you want a wife or husband or do you need a nanny?  

You need to be a confident parent on your own before you bring someone new into your life.  

Again, see part 1 and part two. If any of those areas need some work, then maybe dating should wait.  How will you know if the new person will mesh well with your children’s hearts and personality; without knowing if you can be friends first with that person? How can you say you want this person around your kids without knowing if God is in their life?  Do you know if they are financially stable? Do you if you are financially stable? 

Again, you will not notice red flags if you aren’t confident on your own.

I have two kids and want a partner not another child.  I want a partner.  However, having a partner will never come before my kids.  

You already have an existing tribe that you oversee the care of and adding a tribe member is serious.  Yep, you heard me, a tribe. At my house, we have a sign that says: “Our Tribe. Establish 2015. ” Our tribe is exclusive.  My kids have been hurt.  I have been hurt.  Our tribe is re-establishing.  I won’t rush them or myself.  I won’t be selfish and someone go the tribe that will or could possibly hurt us more or cause chaos.  I know that whoever God brings to this tribe will be patient, will not push, and have lots of respect. 

Don’t bring people in without knowing that they have a lasting place in the tribe.  Everyone who is in the tribe has needs that are different.  Right now if all the needs aren’t being met then how can you bring in another?  

The relationship between you and the person your dating should be solid before bringing them to the tribe.  I hope in your new relationship, you can recognize if someone is forcing a relationship on your child or children.  Raise your hand if you have seen another person join a tribe too soon or before the new tribe had re-established itself.   Didn’t it make life 10x harder than it needed to be?  Did it take years to fix?   Did heal or hurt?   If they are overly eager to be in their life or moving too fast; you should be protecting your kids hearts and minds from that craziness.  

Your children are the most important thing.  That is your legacy.  This is your 1st priority.  You will know when the time is right if you are confident in yourself, seeking God for direction and have a solid tribe before you introduce someone new to it.
Again, this is my thoughts.  Things I 100% believe in.  My story is still being written but I won’t settle.  I will protect my tribe.  I am raising a queen and king.  I am getting my shit together.  I won’t apologize for that. 
❤KGB 
 

Another Great One…Gone

What can I say? I didn’t know him personally. We never had lunch or a glass of wine together but for some reason I like to think that if our paths had ever crossed he would have been approachable. And even though I didn’t know him other than on the big screen doesn’t mean I can’t be sad for the loss of another great life.

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His presence on the screen will be missed. He brought so much laughter to many hearts over the years.

I will never forgot his lines from Dead Poet Society. A quote every writer needs to hear.

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I loved his words of wisdom.

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His ability to look completely at ease, classy, handsome and dignified even in the most outrageous outfits.

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His twitter comments will be forever the best.

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Oh Mr. Williams you indeed wore it best.

So, tonight my family will watch Mrs. Doubtfire and laugh yet again from your outstanding witty performance. I will raise a glass to you and toast your life like we were good friends; say thank you for all that I have learned from you. Your characters taught me to never take myself to seriously, to never be afraid to look like a fool if it brought others a laugh from somewhere down deep, to never grow up and to read poetry.

Mr. Williams may your life be remembered for all the laughter and wisdom you brought us over the years. I only wish we had been able to return the favor. I wish we had been able to heal your heart, fought the demons, and had helped you win the war you were fighting. Oh how I wish you could have seen the greatness within you that allowed others to see the greatness in them.

And sir, you will be missed very much.

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